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Page 25 - Mourning

 

We deeply mourn for our father, mother, brother, sister, son, daughter, husband and wife.

When we meet a person who is in mourning, we say ברוך הגוזר Barukh hagozer.

At a time of deep mourning the bereaved males wear a black textile belt, bereaved females cover their heads with a black scarf.

The mourners at the time of deep mourning pray in the kenasa in the last row.
 
We are in deep mourning for seven days from the burial of the deceased person.

The duty of mourners at the time of deep mourning is to attend morning and evening worship at the kenasa for seven days.

The Hazzan comes on the day of the funeral (before sundown) to the house of bereaved people who are in the deep mourning and gives them the Ayak, ie the cup of consolation.

On the seventh day after the the funeral the Hazzan comes again to the bereaved people and takes back the Ayak, then they go together to the kenasa.

The relatives and friends of the deceased person all go to the kenasa, after prayer they go back to the house of the mourners, where they prepare et ashn, which is food containing meat.

The mourners eat meat for the first time after the seven days of mourning, because within the seven days after the funeral they did not eat meat as a sign of deep grief.

The first Shabbat after the seven days of mourning are in memory of the deceased and the bereaved distribute charitable gifts in memory of the souls of the deceased. When the prayers are finished, members of the community go into the houses of the bereaved, where they hold conversation with the bereaved, they say words of consolation and the bereaved give the members of the community dark Halva, as a symbol of grief.
 
 
On the 30th day after the funeral a mourning banquet is held called ak-kiymyak, a banquet is also held the ten months after the funeral. At this anniversary during this banquet, the members of the congregation are given white Halva instead of black Halva.

On Saturday (the day which the ak-kiymyak falls) after worship the members of the community go in the house of the bereaved with the Hazzan in memory of the deceased person and they comfort the bereaved.
The bereaved give the members of community and the Hazzan white Halva.
After this banquet the mourning ends. 

If a relative died in another city or state, the deep mourning starts from the day when we are informed about the funeral.